As 2019 arrives I thought it’d be beneficial to reflect on this year, the best and worst year of my entire life. 2018 has brought so many new opportunities and experiences that I will be forever grateful for. But with the good comes the bad, and looking back here are a few lessons, and just advice in general that 2018 provided me with…
You cannot change people unless they want to change themselves: For years and years I have tried so hard to help people get along and to better themselves. Until I realized this year that you cannot change someone unless they truly want to put effort into changing themselves, which is often really hard for some people to hear. So I learned that I need to stop wasting my time trying to force change on others, they just need to do it for themselves, I can be apart of that change but I can’t accomplish it for them.
- Letting things go/forgiveness: This has been a big burden of mine for awhile is that I am really bad with grudges. I’m typically a person that likes to stick to my word (most of the time :)) but with that comes good and bad. I realized that love can’t grow if you are keeping tally’s of someone’s mistakes, love can’t get stronger if you keep shutting it out. So I guess not wasting your time on the little fights and arguments is overall beneficial for not only how you handle relationships but how other people interact with you.
- Living more in the moment and investing more into important conversations: I think this is a bigggg struggle with not only myself but my entire generation. I think obviously, society now a days is so much more inclined to just text and facetime and use all these other outlets that we forget how important face to face conversations and just interaction in general is. And this thought actually came from a punishment that my mom had put on me (haha don’t ask, long story that’s for a whole other blog) but anyways I guess I didn’t realize how much time I spend on my phone kind of avoiding what’s going on around me. And that is so bad, 10 years from now I don’t want to look back on high school and just remember how many likes I got on a picture or how many followers I had on snapchat. I want the raw, fun, hilarious memories and moments that are priceless. So I guess living more in the moment is a big motto I want to pursue in 2019.
- EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON!!!!!!!!: As cliche as this one may sound, I had tried to ignore and avoid this for, I can’t even tell you how many times. Whenever I would doubt something or try and pretend that people and things change when they don’t people would always tell me “well everything happens for a reason” and I just wouldn’t trust it…But coming from one of the most stubborn people you will ever meet, this is so unexplainably true. I’m not one to usually trust in fate, cause I like seeing results, and outcomes in a very logic way but I guess for 2019 I just need to trust that the universe has it all figured out and I don’t need to worry as much as I think I do.
- Be more KIND: This last one is so broad and so general, but try and apply this last bit of advice to your own self and your own experiences. Now I get it, It’s extremely difficult to be positive and to be kind ALL of the time, but there have been so many situations that I could’ve held myself back from saying something negative or something hurtful and I just didn’t because I was so caught up in the moment. So I think having a bit more self control over anger and challenging situations is gonna be KEY to a positive year. Realizing that this isn’t the end of the world and trusting that everything works out.