Young, Gifted, and not going to UCONN

A rejection letter that opened my eyes about social acceptance\

Opinion of Hannah Gellar

First and foremost, I do want to congratulate every single senior that got into UCONN Storrs campus. I in no way am taking away from your acceptance, and you should all be very proud of yourselves as this school, and many schools, are very competitive and difficult to get into. This is for all the students that maybe did not get into their top school, or a school that their friends all got accepted to.
This one is for the rejects. The students who got rejected. Whether that be rejected from UCONN, Yale, Southern, Duke,  or a small school in Texas. This one’s for you.
It was five minutes before my application status would pop up on my laptop. Having played the outcome in my head about one thousand times, I reminded myself that UCONN was not even a school I was super interested in. I told myself that if I did not get in, it would not be the end-all-be-all. If rejected, I would crawl into my bed and quietly listen to the Frozen playlist and fall asleep. And if I did get in, I would prove to my parents and my college counselors that I am in fact worthy and good enough for this school. And then boom. My status was in.
… it is with a large number of applicants that we must inform you that you have been accepted to the Avery Point…
Okay Hannah, we prepared for this. You didn’t even want to go here. I turned off my laptop, shook it off and went to bed. The next morning my Snapchat and Instagram feed were blowing up with my peers posting about how they got into UCONN Storrs. Suddenly, I began to fall into the trap of devastation. What did I have that they didn’t’? What class did they all take that maybe I did not?
I immediately became so upset, not because I did not get into this school, but because so many other people did. It was not until a few days after and talking to my mom, that I recognized that the only reason why I was truly upset was because I was playing a compare game in my head with everyone who got accepted.
The Class of 2018 is already receiving their admission letters, and while it should be a time of joy and pride, students often feel anything but. Don’t follow in my footsteps by being disappointed solely based on the fact that I was embarrassed I got rejected because my friends did not. If you got rejected from your dream school, or a school most people got into, remember that as cliche as it sounds, everything happens for a reason.
1. It isn’t your fault.
When a college rejection letter comes in the mail, it is easy to immediately invalidate everything you have ever done and view your experiences as a high school student as incomplete or inadequate. It’s not true. Many universities have rigorous application requirements with expectations that are often left unknown to anyone but the admissions board. At the end of the day, you worked hard to get where you are, and that’s something your application letter won’t tell  you.
2. It’s not the end of the world.
There are so many colleges and universities that would absolutely love to have you walk through their door. Whether it’s expanding your knowledge of other universities that may be better suited to your goals or working hard to transfer to your dream school, there are still opportunities to attend a great learning  institution.
3. It’s not a reason to be mad at the people who did get accepted.
Perhaps there will be someone or vent many people or friends who got accepted to one of your top schools. This does not justify being unkind or rude to them because they got into the school and you did not. Do not try to make reasons on why you should have gotten in over another individual. Whatever happens will not change with jealousy. Once graduation is over, everyone paves his or her own path, and from now on, I have decided to only focus on my path.

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