On Excessive Complaining

People love to complain. This in itself isn’t too bad of a thing; it is when the act engulfs an entire being that it becomes annoying, ignorant, and downright sad.

I’m not saying you can’t ever seek empathy. Sometimes, life throws you a curveball, and you just need a bit of validation from someone saying, “Man, that really sucks.”

That’s isn’t the extent of anyone’s problems, though. People use complaining as a conversation starter, to connect with others, and to make them appear more likable. Those first two are actually pretty effective. However, people don’t like or respect people they pity.

I can only speak from my own experiences, but in my four years of high school, I’ve seen this become a big problem. I remind my friends (half jokingly), “Don’t be an angsty teen with me!” I sincerely hope this goes away with age, but I don’t think it will.

At ELHS, much more than any other part of my life, this problem is prominent. People love to just whine about the administration, or how the teachers don’t care, or how everyone and everything is against them. Grow up. People need to understand that everyone is just doing their best, and the people in power cannot make everyone happy.

We are so blessed to go to East Lyme High School. We have great teachers, a principal who cares, and a wonderful environment. While you may not agree with that, think about the average high school. Do you really think they have it that much better than you?

If you spend all your energy on making your situation seem worse than others, you will start to internalize it. You will begin to hate your life, and just complain more. It is a self-fulfilling prophecy. The best way to combat this is positive thinking. Think about how much you have, how lucky you are. Internalize that.

Don’t take what we have for granted. With the evolution of technology moving so quickly, it’s easy to forget that the phone you want to upgrade so badly was the upgrade just a year or two ago. In America, this is (generally speaking) the best time to be alive. It is important for your mental health to remember that.

To be clear, I’m not saying, “Don’t complain, some people have it worse than you.” That is a bad argument for a multitude of reasons. What I’m saying is you will be happier and more likable if you reserve the complaining for the more serious issues.

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