Judging people isn’t inherently bad. It can get annoying when people do it for purely entertainment purposes, but still, if it gives them joy, and they aren’t hurting the person being judged, I don’t have a huge problem with it.
What’s unhealthy is when the person being judged obsesses over it. There are few guarantees in life; You will pay taxes, you will die, and you will be judged. So stop worrying about what other people are saying about you and start actually living.
Once you are released from these shackles, you will find yourself more free than ever. If you like a shirt, but you fear you can’t pull it off, do it anyway. This is a learned skill, I’ll admit. But once you start, you won’t be looking back.
You cannot control what other people think, say, or do. You can only control how you react. It takes practice, time, and conscious effort.
There is a gray, faded line in my argument, and it trips me up every time when speaking on this subject. What if you are inherently unlikable? Yes, you may laugh, but this is a real thing. Maybe your idea of fun is kicking puppies, and you like to wear shirts with swastikas on them.
I’m not going to like you, but based on this entire blog, that shouldn’t matter to you. It’s not like I can say, “Be yourself, as long as yourself is good enough for my standards!” That’s a bit hypocritical. So what is it? Do I support abusive Nazis or embracing judgement? Neither option seems all too great…
I’ll have to go with supporting everyone’s right to be themselves. Call me optimistic, but I think the natural reaction to a puppy-kicking, genocide-supporting person would be… negative. The best thing for these people is education, because ignorance breeds hate, but that’s a topic for another blog.
When hateful people are allowed to reveal themselves, it only enables me (and others) to make decisions like should I befriend this person, or, is this person fit to run the country… wait…
As stated previously, judgement isn’t inherently bad. It helps us make informed decisions. I realize I’ve only barely scratched the surface of a complicated topic, and I know myself, my opinion will change, so be on the lookout for more blogs on this in the future!